Life's Lessons

I have come to realize the sensory system in Isaiah could be a reason why he is resistant to many things. I don't want to push him or force him to do something that his sensory deems as unsafe or uncomfortable. It we can relate this to neurotypical behavior, we may for example, avoid eating certain foods because of flavor, texture, etc. And asking an autistic child to do something could be detrimental more than helpful. I think forcing an autistic child to do something they are not comfortable with can cause anxiety and maybe even cause more stimming for the child to deal with it. The autistic mind may be different but to the autistic child it is normal.  So how do we fix this? Because society and the school system wants to make children more like (those their age) and force them to be neurotypical I think me as a parent should do what I deem as best for my son. The best thing I can do is allow him to be himself and do what he needs to do that helps him cope in uncomfortab

From my personal journal: "All my life I have done things to fit in with the crowd and now that I am being myself and doing what I need to do to be happy it seems like every other relationship around me is falling apart......" New job, working towards a college degree and working on things for the success of my son. Everything about his personality says sweet, calm and a good kid and behind the scenes is his mama running around like a crazy woman to make life easier for him.

I posted this on facebook yesterday: " Don't let what somebody did to you or say to you ruin your life. Those people are out living their life, you should do the same but keep your distance. Always be true to YOU, always love YOU and do what is best for YOU. If you need help figuring it out, start by listening to positive words, go on youtube and listen to TD Jakes, Joel Osteen. Sign up for daily devotionals from Joel Osteen and The Life daily devotionals. Start listening to meditations while you sleep. Fill your  timelines and instagrams with positivity and unfollow the garbage. Take care of YOU don't worry about who is out here doing what thinking you might miss out on something. I'm tellin you life is way too short to be letting the words or actions of another slow you down and get you down. Life is definitely too short to be anything but the true, authentic YOU. Let today be the day you start to make positive changes for your life and watch what happens."

The Power & Control Wheel I want to take a moment to talk about "abuse". I am no expert on the subject but I think it's important to recognize the signs. When I went through a time in life where I was experiencing abuse I didn't think of it as such at the time. When it was mentioned to me by law enforcement and my therapist I was seeing at the time I thought it was ridiculous and that I was "taking things too far".  One thing I noticed is the abuser makes themself look like the victim.  The question is, when you recognize someone being abused by another how do you approach this? Do you leave it alone or do you say something?

Today, I learned: ❤ You can't compare current situations to what has happened in the past but it's the past that forms how we think and feel. I like to call these life lessons.  Sometimes God forces us to learn and to learn is to grow, mature and move forward.  If there is one thing I know about God is that he will take something away that is NO GOOD for you.  He will keep those in your life that are supposed to be there. Have you ever got all that you wanted just to have it taken away? I read a post on Facebook a year ago from Darryl Cherry. It was titled: "Blocked"......... I can't explain why God does the things that he does but I do know what he did for me, I will never forget and it's because of that I know I can get through anything in this life.........  2 Corinthians 3:18 "So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord." John 15:16 "You didn't choose me. I chose you.